And no one knows Singapore food better than local Singaporeans.
Both of them wanted to stay together for the sake of the kids did I mention they adopted some kids? Adam made the following proposal: That way everyone could get what they wanted. Steve made the following counterproposal: He liked monogamy and fidelity and it would make him really jealous and angry to think of Adam going out and having sex with other people, even in a meaningless way.
Now he was stuck. Adam gave the following counterargument: He had wanted to get married to symbolize his committment to Steve — committment that he still had! Steve gave the following countercounterargument: So then of course they both turned to me for advice.
The rules for psychotherapy are a lot like the rules for Aaron Burr: And I wondered what advice I would give, if I were their friends and not stuck in metaphorical Switzerland. Which side do we choose?
A quick retreat to a simpler situation: Steve does not want to do this. Both of them want to stay together for the sake of the kids, but this do-we-freeze-our-house thing is really getting in the way. This problem is easy.
Suck it up and keep living with Steve at normal-person temperatures. Another retreat in the other direction: Once again, both of them want to stay together for the sake of the kids, but this can-Adam-take-a-shower thing is really getting in the way. This problem is also easy. Suck it up and let Adam take a shower.
A third new situation. The one Unit of Caring recently discussed on her blog. Who is in the right? Unit of Caring writes: I agree with this assessment, but only because I agree with Unit about the object-level issue of transgender.
I come to the table with personal baggage. I come from a very permissive subculture. But go back two hundred years and ask the people of that culture, and this choice is a no-brainer. He should never even have made the request. If Adam and Steve were in the traditional culture of the s there would be no debate.
If they were in some ultra-permissive sexually-open subculture of the s, there would also be no debate. The culture would tell one of them that they were wrong, just like someone who wants to make the other live in a 10 degree frozen house is wrong, that person would grudgingly agree, they would stay together, and that would be that.
We all hear the stories of the economists who start by assuming perfect rationality, and then add in deviations from that assumption when they come to them. I kind of like to start from a liberal assumption of perfect atomic individualism and add in deviations when I encounter them.
And, well, this is the latest one I encountered. Realizing this has made me more open to activists who are trying to change the culture — and, symmetrically, to conservatives who are trying to prevent the culture from being changed.
My sympathies will always be with the atomic individualists who want to come up with some clever Adam-Steve contract that solves their problem on the meta-level as long as all actors are rational, but I am starting to worry the culture warriors have a point here.
Speaking of culture wars, an apology to gay people. I always obfuscate details about my patients to disguise their identities, but I feel particularly bad about making this couple gay because it reinforces the stereotype of gay people as hypersexual and bad at committment.
I made them gay anyway, because when I tried to write them hetero, their gender seemed to skew the problem too much to one side or another — for example, when Steve was a woman, he was the poor innocent wife wronged by a horny husband who insisted on thinking with his crotch.
Which itself says something about how our culture sets default hypotheses.As the child of Ethiopian immigrants who migrated to the United States during the mid s, Sinna Habteselassie's family settled just south of Dayton, Ohio in Centerville where she was born and raised.
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